Ron Trainor

It has taken me along time to able to write a condolence, having cleared out Ron's house last weekend I feel like I have alot more to say.  My husband and I took Carey to Duncan to empty out Ron's home in which prompted alot of anxiety and sadness for all of us.  After the initial emotion of entering the house and coming to full term of this great loss, we all began to think like workers and our job was to complete this task of clearing out Ron's personal items so the new tenant could move in.  For me, the fact that another tenant was soon to be moved in with a new baby really made me think about the process of life, and how circular it truly is. 

Ron kept a neat house with homey trinkets and I was amazed at the wildlife statues he had, very cool.  One of my jobs happened to be clearing out the kitchen and wow, that man loved his TUPPERWARE!  It seemed like there was no end to the tupperware containers in his cupboard.  I must add that the cutest thing in the whole house was the individually bagged zuchini in his freezer, this made us wonder if a neighbor had given him some homegrown veggies. 

 Throughout our weekend, a number of neighbors came over and asked about Ron and they were very saddened to hear of Ron's passing.  One thing that was very clear, was that not only his family noticed he wasn't well but his neighbors too acknowleged it (verbally to me throughout that weekend) which made me sad for him.  I can not imagine how it would be to suffer in silence like Ron did! 

On a brighter note- pun not intended!  It seemed that Ron had a fetish for light bulbs, and Carey and I had a running joke that every time he had an idea he went out to buy a light bulb!  Things like this made our weekend special and unforgetable.  I hold a special place in my heart for the ever SMILING Ron Trainor, always so optimistic and bright eyed and bushy tailed.  I could go on forever about sleeping under the very roof that he laid and lived but I can keep this close to me and hold good thoughts. 

 I give my condolences to Carey and Ronnie especially because I haved lived for 22 years without my father, and I can't tell you that it will get better in time, only different.  At least you two got to know the man he was and always will be in your heart.  I love you both and take care of yourselves- pay attention to your needs while you grieve and give to yourself.  Thinking of you, Ron, Carey, Ronnie and Diane. 

Love Sheri Brown and family  xxooxxoo

We will always remember our brother – for his contagious laughter, his warm ways of always making others feel special and important he never had an unkind word to say about anyone.  Ron had a natural gift in creative writing and poetry as he wrote a beautiful poem for our mother on her funeral.  Ron loved and adored his children and his granddaughter immensely.  We will always have such wonderful memories of our dear brother like the time when we were young and we were on our grandfather’s farm when he was trying to coax us to cross the creek and then he fell in.  We laughed about that for years.  He was such a great brother to have.  He will forever be missed by his sisters, you will always be in our hearts forever,

Dianna and Susan.

Carey & Family,

I wish I had the words to help you- I guess I will try ...

 

I can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling or dealing with this. It was so fast and sudden .. It's hard to grasp.

   

We had a special weekend with Rob McCourty and our families at his event "Blenderfest" and I believe your dad was with us.

 

I lit so many candles .. each with his name on it.  Then on Sunday during "gospel hour"  we sang a number of songs to your dad and we had a moment of silence.  Seeing as we will not be able to speak of him in front of his people - we spoke of him in our circle.  It was healing and hard.  I haven't seen a man cry as hard as Rob was crying in a long ,long time.  It is very hard to understand and fully accept this reality.  Your father will be missed by so many.  

 

Then last night was the full moon - the last one of this summer.  A few close friends and I went to the beach to watch the moon rise, lit a fire and shared in circle.  We shared our summer memories, struggles and joys.  My story of your father's passing was a big part of my sharing.  So, although I have yet to hold you in my arms and cry with you - I feel my healing has started ..  I can only imagine all you need to get through this.  I hope you have a few sprit based outlets in which to honor your feelings and your

loss..     

 

I also found it interesting to note your father and my sister Rebecka share a birth day (Oct 14th) I think I did know this once :) and that your dad moved on Sept. 11 . of all days J  I wondered about this date, then a lady in my circle last night suggested that "11" was like a portal - a very powerful day in which to leave the earth - to move forward .. Hmmm .  so your dad still has me thinking :)   I loved him.

  

I send you so much LIGHT.  I send you so much PEACE .  I send you Love and more Love . 

  

I am so sorry Carey - there really isn't the words to express how we all feel and how much I feel for you.  (Although since I am writing in email - I am trying to find the words J )

  

I look forward to our visit and to celebrating your dad's life with you .. 

 

Wishing you Enough .

 

Shannon-Shylene 

 

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Oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo - I hug you and hug you and hug you and hug you

Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss.  Ron Sr. sounded like a very special man who has left imprints on so many peoples lives.  The lives that he touched will never be the same because of the impressions Ron left on those lives.  I wish I had had the opportunity to have met Ron because, based on what I previously heard about him, and what I have read throughout this memorial, I know Ron would have left me feeling better about myself and a happier person. 

 

Although Ron Sr. is gone from your lives carry your memories of him close to your hearts and with everything you do.  It is always sad to see a loved one go but there is also peace knowing he is with his creator, mother, etc. and can rest peacefully.

 

With great sincerity,

 

Filomena Sorace

My heartfelt condolences to Ron and Carey and all those touched by the loss of Ron Sr. We shared many a laugh at the kitchen table in Surrey, off 104th avenue. Having had many mis-spent nights of my youth with Ronnie and Carey I had the pleasure of meeting their Dad on numerous occasions. The most lasting memory I have of Mr. Trainor (as i used to call him) would be his ever present beaming smile, it was basically impossible to wipe it off his face, no matter how many terrible jokes i told.

 

In Ireland people don't mourn death we celebrate life, granted Ron left this world too soon and it is definitely a sad and difficult time for many. However knowing Mr. Trainor he would want us to be celebrating the good that he brought to the world and the fun times we shared.

 

Carey and Ron, I will always be here for you guys and would love to raise a pint of Guinness with you before too much time passes. One for the old man....

 

May the road rise to meet you. May the wind be always at your back.May the sun shine warm upon your face.May the rains fall soft upon your fields and until we meet again, May the Lord hold you in the palm of His hand.

 

Slainte...

Carey I was shocked that Ron pass so quickly.
I loved your Dad, he was a kind and generous spirit always very positive and
giving. He is the only person to remind me so much of my grandfather in so
many ways. I always felt very comfortable with him even the first time we
met at the Irish Times.
Your fathers gentle demeanor and love of everything in life along with his
special ability to be open and receptive in conversations was amazing. I
could feel his heart and sweetness every time we talked and he was always
encouraging toward me, I am thankful for having him in my life.
He loved you very much and I know our relationship may have caused him to
pause, but I believe he felt that it was a good for you.
As we have talked about, you have so many of his qualities and he knew that
you were very special. I know that's why he always looked for your input and
approval on so many subjects.
I feel your Dad is with us every day, wanting to make the world a kinder and
more loving place. You have that spirit in you.
Ron was a great man, I respect the fact he was very strong and caring with a
giant heart and capacity for loving that radiated in everything he did. He
has taught me many lessons like being more gentle in my heart and I am a
better man for it.
You carry on this gift and I know he is most proud of you, Ron Jr. and the family.
With love,
Jeff

My dear Ron~~the miles kept us apart, the memories brought us close. The few times we were able to visit will always be precious to us.The photos we took while visiting are looked at so often and with such longing to be close. You brought smiles and happiness to everyone you touched.

Our hearts and love go out to the beautiful children you have, Ron jr. and Carey. I know we will meet again in a better place.

I was Ron's lower neighbour for years here in Duncan. We shared a beautiful view, which my favorite time of the year was winter. I am sharing a view that we woke up to on the winter mornings. I am grateful to have met him, as he was a gentle man. He loved telling me how much my daughter Jaeda made him laugh, as he could hear her and her large personality through our thin walls. I will miss him and his gentle personality. I know my dog Kobie will miss his many treats he would sneak over the deck to him.

IF one has three or four true friendships in a life time, he is indeed blessed. Ron was that friend that gave us his love, his smile, and his laughter. They were like champagne that tickled our noses and made us laugh. Dennis and Eleanor Nystedt

Oh boy, such a physical ordeal you went through Ron - both life and business - may his true 
memorial be the ultimate success of the business as he had true success in living life with the wonderful relationships he created and sustained!
Robert